i just scrolled through my Facebook wall and saw four blog re-posts encouraging women through a pithy list. the theme was the same: you are strong, beautiful, princessy and something along those lines. don’t ever change, men have to earn your affection yadda yadda. and they are all good for real. so what’s with my “yadda yadda” you ask?
once again, not one blog post for men. not one single post.
when there are, i click on them. for real. they come around so seldom that i get stoked when i see one. but most of the time, they simply appear to be reworded versions of the women’s blogs (i.e. “hey boys; she’s strong, beautiful and princessy: and you have to earn her affection”). Continue Reading →
yesterday i had a pumpkin spice latte from starbucks. i was at home, and my new wife of almost 2 months got it for me on her way home from work. pumpkinny goodness, warm and in a cup, from our local starbucks to my lips. the cost was relatively meaningless; we could probably afford these daily even if our waistlines couldn’t. but there is something about the ease with which we can grab them that strikes me even this morning. in fact i could leave my house, go get one right now, and still have this blog written within the next hour.
and these things are striking me lately because last week, i spent two days fasting and praying. now, i know that breaks the cardinal rule of fasting: i.e. you aren’t supposed to tell anyone that you’re doing it. but i felt i needed to if only to begin to prove my point. last week, there was yummy delicious food sitting in my house. specifically, baclava that my mother had bought us while she was visiting us earlier. and everyday it was like my entire system was shocked by the reality that i couldn’t have it. i couldn’t just shove it in my mouth because it was right there. it felt strange. fasting causes us to realize the ease with which we can acquire whatever we want whenever we want it. it reveals how easy our lives can be without us even knowing it. Continue Reading →
i had to boil water this morning. i wasn’t making tea or soup or oatmeal. my town is under an order to “boil water” due to potential contamination and so in order to have a drink i must boil my water for it to be safe. imagine not being able to drink water from your tap.
and imagine that that puts you among the fortunate.
the beautiful valley town where i live has been hit with “once-in-a-century” type of flooding. half of the inhabitants were evacuated from their homes; many of them will never return because their home is gone. perhaps you need to read that again. i’ll wait. their home has been washed away by the river. technically it’s a creek that flooded (not a river) but you wouldn’t know that now. the highway that connects our town to the outside world was also gone. (maybe you also want to read that again.) completely and totally washed out in sections. Continue Reading →
i don’t love what you can be. i love what you are. i don’t love your “potential”, i love your “right now”. i don’t love your future, i love your present.
hey you: i love you.
i don’t love what you can do for me. i don’t love the influence that associating with you provides me with. i don’t love your car, your house, your hobbies, your dog or your salary. i don’t love the fact that i can add you to the number of people i’m collecting for whatever reason i’m collecting them. Continue Reading →